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Re: Disability, as a contest

Cannoli — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 01:46:19 GMT

I agree that the whole concept of "can you top this disabilitiy" is absurd. Each of us are physically, mentally, emotionally, financially & spiritually unique. Why is there more or less respect for one "disability" over another? Craziness!

Re: Disability, as a contest

Kara — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 22:18:45 GMT

That is an odd e-mail. It irks me when people say I'm "lucky" to be sitting down during some walking-intensive event but I try to brush it off that they just don't get it. Blogging is great for venting-sorry you were frustrated!

Re: Disability, as a contest

silent422 — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 21:15:51 GMT

To george9t7: I see what you're saying but I don't understand, personally, the point of such 'contests'. What does it accomplish? Here's some perspective. A friend of mine is a paraplegic. His mindset is, 'Well, half my body is useless. I can't use my legs but, at least, I still have them.' As for me, I get by. I don't see my situation as horrible. However, I don't have most of one leg. I only have about 7 inches of 'residual limb' left. I think comparisons can only go so far and shouldn't be made in an antagonistic manner. The only person (or people) I can compare my disability to are other LAK amps& no one else. Even then, comparisons can only be done to a modest extent. Comparing my disability to any one else's is pointless& can't be successfully done.

Re: Disability, as a contest

george9t7 — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 15:53:38 GMT

I can relate to what you are saying. I see it happening all of the time both within the disabled community and outside of it as well. The "contest" seems to be a "who won" contest with the most miserable being the victor. People are like a group of chickens in a hen house, each having a pecking order in relationship to the rest. Have you noticed that when this so called "contest" is in play that people begin to have a "vested interest" in their difficult situation or disability? Some, going even so far as to stop trying to improve their lives so as to be able to again "win" in this "poor me" on going contest without end.

Re: Rude

George P. — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 07:36:20 GMT

I'm sorry. I change my mind. - Perhaps, next time, after say: “thank you for your kindness,” calmly you have to look direct to her eyes, and with authentic compassion (because is what she deserved) and a respectful smile, while raising your hand, yells . . . NOBODY IN THIS BUS, WILL OFFER A SIT TO THIS REALLY MENTALLY DISABLE WOMAN? . And please, if somebody laughs and I’m sure somebody will, look serious at the smiley guy and with a solemn voice, and conviction add . . . WAS NOT A JOKE!!!!! Sir.

Re: Rude

George P. — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 06:00:46 GMT

Well, I cannot blame this lady at all, actually. She’s right. You stayed silent and are exactly what you have to do, in this case and all similar situations. In fact, thinking more and more about this, it is easy for me to realize what kind of human been you are. You think that it is all about you. You are, egocentric and insensitive of other people's issues, shame on you! You have no right to take the seat from a brain amputee woman. Shame on you!. Amazingly, inteligent people like you, know nothing about the undercover really sick people who hate life out there, like this lady. And please, do not blame either of the other people on the bus, they weren't indifferent; it was your mistake for hitching a ride on the after-brain-donor-surgery patients' bus. Next time, choose the right bus !....... I hate people like you, who cut their limbs off to take a seat from really "disabled people".

Re: Rude

joycedavis — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 18:43:43 GMT

on second thought, maybe i would have bitten my tongue, i believe that peace starts here, but from your note it seemed like she said it for all to hear. i guess that doesn't make it much different. so maybe i would have had the class not to respond...but there's the other side of me that would be put down and stay down for a few seconds...it's hard not to be but i try.

Re: Rude

joycedavis — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 18:37:58 GMT

i would have been livid. i know i would have made a scene. i would have gone out of my way to thank the couple who had gotten me the seat, and said, "if it weren't for people like you, the world would be filled with rude, and insensitive people - especially on the bus." of course i would have then held my hand up and obviously pointed to the lady for just the couple to see (knowing all too well that the lady would see it.)

Re: Rude

bluetigermo47 — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 23:48:15 GMT

Silent: I am so sorry about what happened to you, but so proud you showed more class than that lady will ever hope to have. Wheelchair users face the same stigma. When I was shopping one day, I saw a well-dressed woman and her child pushing a shopping cart in front of me. They went down an aisle, but left the cart blocking my way. After saying, excuse me, could you please move the cart, the lady glared at me, shoved the cart up a few feet and said, "Satisfied, you crippled B!!" I learned you can't change the attitudes of some adults when it comes to dealing with the disabled in public settings, but for her to say that in earshot of her daughter was very sad and very ignorant.

Re: Rude

Nanal — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 22:50:43 GMT

It's really hard to believe.......people, like this woman.......exist !......You indeed did show.......alot of class by not responding............and should be very proud of yourself. It's often been said.........we can't choose what people say or do to us.........only how we respond........I can't think of anythng you could have said.........you know the expression.........." I won't dignify that with an answer "...........well......I think this definately fits !.......All I can say is.........it's really pathetic to think that there actually are people who think like this woman............no.......it's sad.........sad for humanity........that's the group that we belong to............she brought us all down.........as part of the human race.............and that's her biggest crime............sorry you had to have any part of it !......... !.............peace and love.......Norma

Re: Rude

silent422 — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 18:16:14 GMT

I wanted to say something but I thought it better not too. I was in awe when the lady said this to me& she only said it loud enough for me to hear. I could've been so rude back but I do my best to bite my tongue and hard, if need be. I prefer not to be rude to people. I'm no push over but being rude& mean on a constant basis is not my forte'. Also, I accidentally deleted 'song's comment on here. Sorry about that. I'm still trying to get used to Disaboom as far as sites go. I couldn't find you in the membership directory otherwise I would've emailed you about it.

Re: Rude

bonniethesurvivor — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 14:53:27 GMT

You proved yourself to be the one with all the 'class' by not responding. I, personally, would choose not to be disabled in a nano-second, but accept that until that unlikely event happens, I will always be one of "those people" to some. They are the losers, in their spirit, their community, and in their failure to contribute to the peace we need here on earth. At least there was someone there to help you get a seat; another step forward in awareness. bonnie

Re: Rude

Becky — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 05:10:00 GMT

Hey Silent! I'm a RBKA of three years. Wow, I can't believe this woman said that to you. I mean, to think it is bad enough, but to actually say it to someone. Like you chose to become an amputee! You did the right thing though, by not saying anything. I'm surprised someone else on the bus didn't say something though. I would have. Hang in there. Ignore the rude ones! Becky

Re: Things to help phantoms

silent422 — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 02:49:51 GMT

Norma- I'm no doc but drugs like Neurontin or Lyrica might help your nerve pain. Talk to your docs about them to find out.

Re: Things to help phantoms

silent422 — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 02:47:45 GMT

For the amps who have phantoms, I hope this helps. And for anyone who reads this, amps or if you're not an amp but know one, please share this info to help other amps who have phantoms if that's ok.