Posted: 11/8/2007 at 01:04 PM
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It's uncanny.
About 1 and 1/2 months ago, nearly all of my suitors stopped texting and calling me; all unannounced (and very unabashedly I might add). I don't know why. I never got the chance to tell any of them that I found a new boyfriend in early August, but it's so weird. It's like they all have this "She has a boyfriend! She has a boyfriend!" sonar that went off when I finally found a man that was better than them all (and let me tell you it was no easy feat).
Being in a wheelchair since age 14 has put a huge damper on the prospects of finding people who will accept me and who won't, naturally causing havoc in my now adult dating-life. I hate it. It's not fair. But there's not a damn thing I can do about it I guess, no matter how hard I wish my quadriplegia away. I'm 28 now, dating a man who's 37, and it's really nice. Older guys tend to accept me more than the youngins. But anyways, back to what I was rambling on about: How did all of my "potential" boyfriends, i.e., guys who were sort of "there," but not all the way, know about my new guy? I swear, guys have this invisible radar built into them after these thousands of years of evolution.
In a way, I kind of miss all that attention: The out-of-the-blue text or phone call from some hunky guy across town, telling me how sexy he thinks I am. It was a huge ego-boost for a very lacking self-esteem. But, I can thankfully say I've "grown-up" so to speak and no longer get whispy-eyed when a cute guy who used to call/text/stop by, suddenly stops. I'm ok with that. I now have a guy who genuinely cares about me enough to want me all for his own, and to live with me too.
So maybe that "built-in" radar guys have is a god thing afterall. My new boyfriend wouldn't appreciate those 1am phone calls :)
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I've always had a thing for older men. They seem to need to prove themselves a lot less and are more comfortable in their own skins.
But don't be surprised if you get a lot of attention from men. You, my girl, are stunning! Stunning! Look at you! You've got that whole Nordic maid of the North thing going on. You're gorgeous.
hi tiff, i hope that your man treats you like a queen and makes you so very happy. my best to both of you.. xoxo
problem,
"You've got that whole Nordic maid of the North thing going on..."
awwww *blush*
thank you so much!!
- tiff
debbie,
me too! i'll keep you posted ;)
My guess is you gave off some sublte "taken" vibes that the others picked up on. As you got more interested in your steady you got less interested in the others. You probably didn't answer the texts as fast and weren't as available to do things since you were spending more and more time with your new guy. Yes???
Ditto to what Debbie said.
And Hey I didn't reply to the concert thing cuz i have to wear earplugs to go outside and didn't want to be negative
its ok tracy. you must have sensitive ears, hmm?
:(
actually, they all just stopped texting. i never got the chance to never text back. weird huh?
tiff
It's a tough spot to be taken but have to sacrafice ALL the external attention..I've been with Adam for SEVEN years in a couple of weeks but it's still super nice to get a text or a phone call that is a classy compliment-it is an ego boost!
kara,
it is an ego boost. i'll admit it i guess :)
Oh well you got me on that one. (why they stoped texting etc) but you got a guy that is into you. and you are happy.? YOU are the one need to be happy.
And yes my ears...eyes...head... brain hurts all the time...lol...picture the worst (I hit my head i can't explain it yet) you have ever had...now think about it not going away...you know... experiencing it 4ever Hello welcome to my particular brand of TBI.
Ive met people with tbi's that never have any pain. I used to be an avid hockey fan. But couldn't afford tickets. So I got a job as an usher. This was soooo un cool to do as far as a social life(think uniform and that nacho cheese) Now I can't even watch it on tv. Now, I know what you are thinking, Grin, yes i have a tv, laughing, its the Movement, back and forth, even with my indoor sunglasses on, the movement makes my head hurt. Who knew? Not me.
Good luck with your new man.
Not many can do what you do ...he better cherish you.
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