THIS SUCKS!

Whiskeyman your are diffenatly hitting hard times. I won't begin to imagine what its like. I am not a quadraplegic but I did have colon cancer and ended up with a colostomy bag. You more then anyone knows the power of taking 1 day at a time, 1 hour at a time and getting through the next few minutes. The pain and discomfort of feeling every bit of food going through your system with subside. Having to go to a nursing home may not be all that bad. Just look at it as temporary. You can find contacts who are dealing with similair siutations. Check with the veterans hospital, thay may be able to get you in touch with the right groups to help. Just plan on the nursing home as research time. As far as your family, Try to find someone who can put your heartfelt feelings down on paper for you sister. Try to understand that power of attorney or even custody, if its shared, my not be a bad thing. Even though thinking ahead of 1/2 a day may be as far as you can, you need to think of what could happen farther down the road. When I was at my lowest and didn't understand why all the stit was happening, I remembered long ago when I saw small children haveing to battle with like problems. I remember praying to God that if any horrible thing was to happen to my children to please give the burden to me and let me carry and deal with it. I look at my life now and those prayers being answered. Just remember your not the first that has had to go through hell and you won't be the last. There are others who are worst off then you. And you will get through this, its just a process of learning and adjusting. You will get through it.