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Confidence is sexy? You bet it is. That tired but true saying is one of the most important things to know when going out on dates and meeting possible lovers. Confidence says, “I love who I am!” Confidence says you have great genes and would produce beautiful children. Confidence says you are a better date than everyone else and are totally worth their time.

Confidence can even erase your disability in many people’s minds. If you’re confident despite whatever your disability or health condition may be, your chances are definitely higher in regards to finding a significant other, whether short-term or long-term. People love confidence and are drawn to it like a moth to a flame. The problem of course is becoming confident, and sometimes even, pretending you’re confident.

I’m a big proponent of pretending to be confident, even if I’m not feeling that way. Why? Becomes sometimes if you pretend/act in a confident manner enough times, you’ll eventually feel that way. It seriously can work, however silly it may sound. But what’s better than pretending to be confident is finding real confidence, even if your legs don’t work.

Here are some tips I’ve discovered during my many years of playing the dating field from my ever-present wheelchair on how to find that confidence that‘s hiding within you:

• We all have something amazing, unique, or impressive about us. Whether it’s a rare skill, an accomplishment, a sexy body part, whatever. Think about things that make you special. Go ahead. Let your head get big. Doing this the hours before a date is your best bet. That way, the thoughts will be swimming in your brain while you’re on your date.
• Recognize that there are many sexy disabled people in this world and that ANYONE can be considered attractive to the right person. People with disabilities are unique and strong individuals, and those things in themselves can make you a pretty awesome person. After all, no one’s body is perfect. Remember that. We are all members of the human race; each of us is valid and worthwhile.
• And if—even after all those exercises—you still can’t for the life of you feel confident, then you better get good at faking it. The best ways to do the faux-confidence route is to know that body language can say a lot. If you move around a lot, fidget, avoid looking directly into a person’s eyes, it’ll appear as if you’re not confident or even worse, that you’re not interested. Smile, look them in the eyes, nod when they talk, and lean in towards them, too, during conversations to show confidence.

You see, confidence erases insecurity, and will instantly make people want to get to know you better. When you’re on a date, talk enthusiastically about things you like; compliment your date and ask him/her questions (be careful not to ramble on and on about yourself, or worse, not say much of anything at all).

Confidence can do wonders. Remember that, and remember that faking it is A-OK too (many people do it). Good luck, and may the confidence be with you!