Last post Fri, May 02 2008 6:33 PM by CNo64. 6 replies.
I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 9 YEARS NOW AND MY HUSBAND HAS CELERY PALSY, SEIZURE DISORDER AND A LOT OF OTHER ISSUES . EVERYTIME HE GETS SICK OR WORSE AND I TELL HIS DAUGHTER AND EX WIFE THEY DON'T CARE. THEY WILL BRING IT UP IN HIS FACE THAT HE DOES NOT DO ANYTHING FOR HERE AND THAT HE NEVER GIVES HER MONEY AND THAT I SHOULD GET OUT THERE AND WORK TO SUPPOERT HIM. I HAVE THREE YOUNGER CHILDRENAND RIGHT NOW CAN NOT WORK DUE TO HIS CONDITION. I AM READY TO TELL THEM NOT TO EVEN BOTHER. DOES ANYONE KNOW WHAT I AM GOING THROUGH AND GIVE ME ADVICE ON WHAT I SHOULD DO. THANKS........ MICHELE
Have you contacted Social Security...if $$ is one of the issues then he should be more than eligible for help. As for his ex and his daughter i won't comment on where they can go!!!
This is awful, but this kind of thing happens more frequently than one might expect. People say, "Family will always stick with you," but in many cases that is simply not true. It's not anything you've done "wrong." Those two must be very unhappy, empty little people to react the way they did to this situation. I haven't heard from my sister since shortly after my nearly lethal hemorrhagic stroke in early 2001. She wrote our mother a letter in which she claimed that our mother had told her "I'll only have time for Carla from now on." I know my mother never said any such thing, but my sister, who had gotten used to our mother doing her errands, cooking for her, etc., realized that she could no longer be the center of attention at all times. If she can't be "It," she doesn't want to play at all. She's also been quoted as saying that I got what I "deserved" because I didn't take better care of myself. That made me angry, until I realized what she was actually saying was, "That is really scary, and I don't want something like that to happen to me, so I'm looking for reasons why it won't or can't." All that to say: People behave in really bizarre ways when things like this happen. Many of them will cut and run. You simply can't be sure of people, no matter who it is. The only One you can always count on is God. That sounds trite, but my experiences have taught me that it's true. It sounds like it would be futile and frustrating to expect any sort of support, emotional or otherwise, from these two empty, self-centered little people. Is there really any good reason to inform them when your husband has a medical crisis?It sounds like it might be healthier for you, and all the same to them, if you detach, as if they don't exist.There are better people out there.I wish you the very best.Please keep us updated.Carla N.
Have you looked into a Home Health Care aid for him? with the kids in school/day care, that would free you up to go to work.
Just an idea.
TriDog: Have you looked into a Home Health Care aid for him? with the kids in school/day care, that would free you up to go to work. Just an idea.
Carla N.
i can relate i am in wheelcair from sept1, 2000 my wife told me go live with my mom, now from oct2007 i have to watched my mom at 88 years old she can not remeber too take her med i have too test her suger and cook for her give 5 dif. meds 4 times a DAY MY KIDS DO NOT CARE or have there own prblems
L2FRANK: i can relate i am in wheelcair from sept1, 2000 my wife told me go live with my mom, now from oct2007 i have to watched my mom at 88 years old she can not remeber too take her med i have too test her suger and cook for her give 5 dif. meds 4 times a DAY MY KIDS DO NOT CARE or have there own prblems
I live with my 68-year-old mother who, thank God, is in good physical health but has trouble with depression.People give me "helpful" advice, like, "Do more for yourself, so she won't be so stressed!" or "Take her out to dinner, to cheer her up!"For what it's worth, I think it's stinking of your kids to leave you to handle this situation alone as best you can, but people will do that. I haven't heard from my sister in seven years.If I didn't have my faith, I'd have been a raving lunatic long ago.
