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am I the only one?

Last post Tue, Sep 23 2008 3:32 AM by Liz07. 79 replies.


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  • mikethewhg mikethewhg
    Posts: 2
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    • Posted: Mon, Mar 10 2008 2:28 PM

    • Ok so I have my left foot amputated below the knee. Everything else about me as normal as it ever was. It seems like whenever I go out and meet a woman, either specifically or at random, I get the same question. Something along the lines of "does your dick still work?". They usually aren't that blunt and they often try thier hardest to at least wait an hour before they ask, but you can almost see them asking the question in thier head. Quick glances to the region and the smell of burnt rubber from wheels spinning. You know what I mean? It happens to me so often, I'm wondering if im the only on it happens to. Let me know if it's just me. Thanks.


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  • IamwhatIam IamwhatIam
    Posts: 70
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    • Posted: Mon, Mar 10 2008 5:05 PM

    • Mike, you have to start hanging around places that require women to have at least a passible I.Q.   What in the world would losing a limb have to do with sexual function?  I can understand with someone with paralysis, but missing part of your leg?     Any woman who would ask that question is just plain dumb.   Maybe you are just reading too much into things.  Have you been with a woman since your injury?  Are you worrying about performance issues?  If you are ok that way, just be happy that they are thinking of you as a sexual being and show them how well you can do.

       

      I'm not trying to make light of your situation, Mike.  I have been there myself.  The irony of my situation is that I can't move anything below my neck, but I get awe-inspiring reflex erections, and can maintain as long as there is stimulation.   I say if you have all these women falling all over you, that you start showing your stuff, and keep us all posted in a blog.  (Details, we want details!)

       

      All the best,

      Jon

       


    • Show up, suit up, shut up.
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  • Blue Eyes Blue Eyes
    Posts: 68
    • permalink Re: am I the only one?

    • Posted: Tue, Mar 11 2008 6:00 PM

    •  Hey there, I'm a female and have been a RBK amputee for almost 7 years...I have had men ask me "How do you have sex?" I say to them..."How do YOU have sex!?" this shuts 'em up.  Cool


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  • ShelleyF ShelleyF
    Posts: 43
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    • Posted: Sat, Apr 12 2008 3:14 PM

    • You're just missing your foot and they think you can't have sex? What the hell is wrong with the world? If I was in your position and some girl asked me a question like that I would just shrug and say " well I guess you're never going to find out" and walk off or " Despite popular belief the penis is not actually connected to the foot. " If a woman even questions your ability in the bedroom because of your amputation that's warning bells that she isn't worth the time. I'm an above knee amputee and I've had people ask me how I have sex a few times. This usually comes from my boyfriend's buddies when they had a few too many beers. The response is usually " The same way as you, only better." or " Why are you asking? I'm not sleeping with you."Or I tease our buddies by explaining the birds and the bees to them. Once my mother's co-worker had the nerve to ask her if I could have sex. I cracked up when she told me about it. My mother told the woman. " Well she lives with her boyfriend and she's 21 she can do what ever the hell she wants."

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  • jklamom jklamom
    Posts: 7
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    • Posted: Sat, Apr 12 2008 3:27 PM

    •  

      whether your lower region or not shouldn't make a difference to a woman if she has any compassion or actual true intentions.....i agree with previous responses saying you need to go somewhere else to find companionship...these "ladies" are not developed enough to handle a true relationship with anyone else but themselves. So let them go it alone but dont put it on urself.  Do you have feelings, can you speak?, can you function on an every day level and deal with your handicap for yourself as best as you can?...these are the important factors in your life and anybody else who cant, well wait till it happens to them......some kind of disability happens you just have to adjust and deal.  As my Simper fi son would say "suck it up". you sound like you are dealing really well where most would not.  Dont let other simple minded people second guess yourself.

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  • dtunstall65 dtunstall65
    Posts: 12
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    • Posted: Sat, Apr 12 2008 7:03 PM

    • Hi,

      It sounds like you are around a bunch of ignorant people. They have some nerve asking a question like that.



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  • shellGVchick shellGVchick
    Posts: 1,261
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    • Posted: Sat, Apr 12 2008 7:21 PM

    • You should only have those in your life who prove they deserve to be there.  If you give people all of you, and they take and take, not giving anything back, it's time to move on.  I can't believe the nerve some people have. I'm sorry that happened to you.


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  • TriDog TriDog
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    • Posted: Sat, Apr 12 2008 8:11 PM

    • So Mike.

       

      The question is till on the table.  Does your dick still work?. 

       

      The world wants to know......  Wink 


    • It's a Great Life if you just don't weak'n!
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  • madmumbler madmumbler
    Posts: 249
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    • Posted: Sun, Apr 13 2008 8:59 AM

    • *LOL*

       See, I'm a smart-ass ball-buster. Something I hope my son picks up (he's 12, SB, uses a w/c) when he's older.

       

      Here's a few "answers" to the inconsiderate questions (although I agree that the people asking are morons):

      • 1) Why don't you sit on my lap and find out?
      • 2) Why do you ask? (Then stare without talking and watch them trip all over themselves.)
      • 3) You tell me.
      • 4) About as good as your brain.
      • 5) It did last night.
      • 6) State secret - if I told you, I'd have to f*** you.
      • 7) Wouldn't you like to know?

      These answers will either shut up the questioners, or get you laid, most likely. *LOL*

    • Lesli in SWFL.
      Mom to Joey, aka "The Boo" (12, w/c athlete with spina bifida)
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  • shellGVchick shellGVchick
    Posts: 1,261
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    • Posted: Sun, Apr 13 2008 9:01 AM

    • LMAO!!    You two are such males....  Stick out tongue


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  • madmumbler madmumbler
    Posts: 249
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    • Posted: Sun, Apr 13 2008 9:05 AM

    • Last time I checked I was a girl!! *LOL* (At least that's what my dh told me last night! *LOL*)

       

       


    • Lesli in SWFL.
      Mom to Joey, aka "The Boo" (12, w/c athlete with spina bifida)
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  • tsh3406 tsh3406
    Posts: 161
    • permalink Re: am I the only one?

    • Posted: Sun, Apr 13 2008 2:28 PM

    • Holy shit dudes, ROTFLMAO.....  Seriously...   Rolling Wink

       Here's another "male" opinion.  I live in a college town with college bars, this happens to me a lot too.  I've noticed two things.  Older women just tend to assume that there's always something u can do for them, and proceed as planned.  Younger women, however, may lack confidence, experience, or just don't know any better.  But they are obviously curious, and I've found that curiousity usually leads to discovery.  Don't think they're ignorant, or not worth while, they just need to be taught (so to speak).  I agree with Jon, start swingin' lumberjack Big Smile

       

      And, "If I told u, I'd have to F u"?  I'm stealin' yer line, that's awesomeYes

       

      Tim


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  • madmumbler madmumbler
    Posts: 249
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    • Posted: Sun, Apr 13 2008 3:11 PM

    • tsh3406:

      And, "If I told u, I'd have to F u"?  I'm stealin' yer line, that's awesomeYes

       

      Tim

       

      *LOL* Tim, if it helps you, you're welcomed to it.

        

       

       


    • Lesli in SWFL.
      Mom to Joey, aka "The Boo" (12, w/c athlete with spina bifida)
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  • ashpatt ashpatt
    Posts: 1
    • permalink Re: am I the only one?

    • Posted: Sun, Apr 13 2008 3:27 PM

    • that question i think everybody gets but i been having mine since i was 7 years old and i have a man and we do it like every one else which is none of people business


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  • halftrack halftrack
    Posts: 21
    • permalink Re: am I the only one?

    • Posted: Thu, May 15 2008 12:32 PM

    •  Well, I was fortunate enough to be blessed with a good partner before I lost the leg.  It was never even a question. I was happy to be alive and able to spend the rest of my life with her.  The AK amputation HAS left us with some really versatile choices for positions. 

       

      Maybe you can tell them that your penis receives more blood flow now that your body doesn't have to perfuse both legs. 

       

      Let 'em wonder after that. 


    • You can sit on the bench and watch, or you can play. I'd rather play.
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