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Becky: thank for the clarification. I can see why you're hurt and feel abandoned. Honestly, being sick, having these things happen causes grief that is just as difficult to process as the death of a loved one. Have you ever considered grief counseling?

 

Edited because I hit post too soon: I think your perception might be colored by the grief you're feeling over your illness and loss. Maybe it's time to focus on how to make your life better, regardless of what other people say or do? I've been where you are when a group of former friends did some not so nice things to me; it hurts a lot, I know. I also know these things can leave permanent scars. It just takes time, but it should be meaningful time spent trying to find the answer out of the pain. Well, that's what I think, anyway.

Thank you Liesl, Laurie, Terry Lou, AnimalLover, JellyO, epylar. Your kind comments were thoughtful and appreciated.

Iam, Tridog, beakerless and Shelley, you all managed to tear apart my problem and take everything out of context. Thanks for being so nit-picky and thoughtless. You called me a thoughtless liar, in so many words, an uncaring selfish bitch, I guess eh? I would not want to be like any of you people in any way. You are sad, sick and mean individuals.

I thought we were supposed to support each other here. I guess not. Being mean as you can be is no way to go through life. You may live that way, but I do not. Good luck with that. You all need to grown up.

You have ruined this site for me and tarnished the image for me of what I thought was a good place to be, a place that understood me, because I was disabled, like the rest of you. I have cleared out my profile and I will never come back.  

Good luck being a "true survivor" beakerless. See how far you get being as mean as you can be. If that is what it takes to be a "true survivor," I will pass and just go being the plain old survivor that I am and continue with the positive attitude that has kept me cancer free for three years.

Now you can all feel free to go and pick on someone else. I'm sure your next victim is just waiting to hear your comment.  

 

Becky,

 

You just don't get it. I looked up "Opinion" for you.

 

OPINION:n[uh-pin-yuhn]

This is what you asked for.  Then you cry because you don't like the opinion you got. If you had asked for us to support you in your anger towards your MIL, I wouldn't have said anything. 

 

I really do hope you seek out some prefessional help.  Unless of course you are happy being angry at the world.  Good luck and all the best in whatever course you take in life.

 

TriDog I couldn't have said it better myself.

Becky we never called you any of that, you wrote it.

Opinions are like assess every one has one.

I think you dislike us because we are making you look at yourself and your not seeing what you like back.

 

Becky:

Hello,

 

 

Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill? Am I being a selfish brat? I don't think so. If you could please share your experiences with me or any insights you might have into my situation, I would appreciate it. Even just words of support. I will never trust them again. They can rot in a nursing home. I will not take care of them.

Thank you

I don't blame you at all for being confused! It sounds like maybe when you were in the hospital, your mother-in-law did what she did because she felt that she was helping out her poor son and grandchildren who were "all alone."

Do you think that because you're now at home and apparently coping well, your mother-in-law feels that her help is no longer needed? Under the circumstances, you'd think it would occur to her to ask if you need anything, but maybe she's trying a little too hard to not be the meddling mother-in-law, and is waiting to be asked. If you don't want to ask her yourself, maybe your husband could mention that you're having some difficulty, and if his mother offers to help, he can gratefully and graciously accept on your behalf. If she doesn't volunteer, you may have to face the fact that she's unwilling/unable to help you, and be extra appreciative of those generous friends and neighbors who are willing to help.
People are fond of saying, "Family always stands by you during hard times," but unfortunately, that is just not always true.

Keep us updated.

Carla N.