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Posted on: Wed, Jun 25 2008 11:02 AM

Posted by: ducky01 Posts: 153

 The guys I knew in high school were afraid of me because I carried a baseball bat! LOL, yes, I am joking.

Sherilyn, I agree that many of us think of our own disabilities as "unattractive."  We are our own worst critics, it seems.  I actually get embarrassed if I go out in shorts and my stump is uncovered (I usually keep it covered with a sock or a bandage, because the incision scars are still very fresh and have a certain "Icky" factor). I feel certain that people are going to say "Ewww!" and run away. And, if they don't, I just KNOW it's because they are trying to be polite. Actually, in a lot of cases, they don't even notice unless I draw attention to it by saying "Oh, I forgot to cover that up, sorry!"  Most of them are looking at my bumper sticker instead of my stumper sticking out. It's amazing how many of us developed our own image and self-esteem issues back in the high school days, isn't it?  Teenagers are a tough crowd, because we all want to be like everyone else when we are teenagers, and haven't yet realized that we ARE all unique, and we can celebrate out uniqueness instead of being embarrassed by it. 

  I am so glad to have a place where we can discuss stuff like this honestly among people who do understand what we go through.  And, hey, your husband must think you're attractive, because he married you and had babies with you, right? Guys don't usually do that unless they find you attractive (okay, except in those "arranged marriage" things, but I am thinking maybe you and he chose each other, right?)  So, if he thinks you're attractive, it's because you are! 

hugs from ducky 

Posted on: Wed, Jun 25 2008 12:47 PM

Posted by: wazabiker Posts: 395

Spinner, I am not saying I must hang with PWDs to be accepted.  Most of my social life is with nondiabled, but I do enjoy my time with PWDs.  Among folks who look like me I tend to be more forthright about what is going on with me.  The easy banter about disability with PWDs releases the veil of caution one has with nondisabled.

Noisily,

Pop Gunn

Posted on: Wed, Jun 25 2008 6:46 PM

Posted by: strokie Posts: 25

the only thing that makes one unatractiveis the oh woe is me and ,feeling sorry for ones self I myself have suffered astroke , except fopr a few narly scars I'm often told thatI look good which makes me feel better, nothing works better than a nice warm smile weather it is from you or some one else  please take care and have a wonderful day yours strokieaka mar