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Posted on: Fri, Apr 18 2008 5:19 PM

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How many people are willing to simply turn away and does just ignoring such behavior perpetuate it? Opinions appreciated. 

Posted on: Fri, Apr 18 2008 5:21 PM

Posted by: Nightengale Posts: 665

This is why we would benefit from more moderation in the chat room.  NOT to ban people, but to clearly say something when language becomes unacceptable under the terms of service.

Posted on: Fri, Apr 18 2008 5:48 PM

Posted by: Justin DeCastro Posts: 589

Good point, Nightingale.  More moderators may help resolve the issues, provided Disaboom has the resources presently to provide that on a 24/7/365 basis.

But if the TOS says no racist, sexist, homophobic, disability-phobic attacks will be tolerated, then members in the chatroom when an "incident" occuirs simply need to gang up on the culprit and make sure that person understands that his/her hateful and invalidating comments are not acceptable.  Do members have to be "deputized" by management to stick up for their principles, for gawdsakes?  I'm sure that as members of an adult website, we can do that for ourselves and be just as efficient in maintaining a friendly, respectful decorum in the chatrooms.

Justin.

Posted on: Fri, Apr 18 2008 6:05 PM

Posted by: Tim Posts: 1,097

Justin DeCastro:

Good point, Nightingale.  More moderators may help resolve the issues, provided Disaboom has the resources presently to provide that on a 24/7/365 basis.

 

But if the TOS says no racist, sexist, homophobic, disability-phobic attacks will be tolerated, then members in the chatroom when an "incident" occuirs simply need to gang up on the culprit and make sure that person understands that his/her hateful and invalidating comments are not acceptable.  Do members have to be "deputized" by management to stick up for their principles, for gawdsakes?  I'm sure that as members of an adult website, we can do that for ourselves and be just as efficient in maintaining a friendly, respectful decorum in the chatrooms.

 

Justin.

You got it.     also, if multiple people report the issue with evidence (i.e. chat log, screenshot, etc) then Customer Service can discpline the perpetrator (temporary ban, permanent ban, depending on the offense).  Just remember, if you report something you have to have firm evidence; 'he said she said' sorts of reports are not sufficient.

Posted on: Fri, Apr 18 2008 6:13 PM

Posted by: cudachaser Posts: 1,484

 I've tried hard to moderate in the chat room...but we as moderators have no tools to stop this kinda stuff in the chat  rooms...forums we have several...but we can't actually ban anyone. The only thing is member controlled not moderator. Any member can block another chat member but the only way this works is if every one in the room follows thru, some know how the function works...but most aren't familiar with it

Big problem is that the chat rooms are on a different plateform from the Disaboom website. I've asked management for help there but still no resolution. I've also tried to find IP addresses of violators...all people on chat have a common IP so you can't track them that way

Joe 

Posted on: Fri, Apr 18 2008 6:40 PM

Posted by: Posts: 3,470

I know you have tried very hard Joe. I think perhaps I did not make my point very well.  It seems that in the chat room and the world at large people just seem to feel that if we just ignore ugly racial comments that is enough.  It is not and people like King and Ghandi knew this.

Because this site is populated largely by individuals who have suffered some type of discrimination based on disability during their life I guess I had hoped things would be different.

To those who simply say I have problems in my life I don't want to get involved SHAME ON YOU.

Posted on: Fri, Apr 18 2008 7:59 PM

Posted by: shellGVchick Posts: 1,261

My question is how many times do warnings have to be given before they go that final step and ban some one. For months I have been repeatedly attacked, and my husband as well.  He has nothing to do with disaboom at all. Growing up your taught that you don't attack some ones family and kids. Your taught manners and right from wrong and it seems the ones who do know how to treat people are the ones being attacked.  I've had people call me a N lover, I've had people call my husband a N. I had a person today say I'd have a N baby and so on. How many times does this go on before some thing is truly done. It seems some use their disability or age as an excuse for their behavior and it is sickening to me. So how bad does it have to get before some thing is done. I have had people private message me, and I ask them not to about 50 times a day and they do it any way. They tell me to make them. There is a total lack of respect.  I think doing it in a chat room seems acceptable to some. It's not. Yeah you don't have to be accountable, look some one in the eye. If you used that N word on the street you'd get your ass beat. There are no moderators so these people have an excuse just to do it more and say no one is here from staff so I'll do whatever I want. I shouldn't and others shouldn't have to put up with daily abuse. We shouldn't have to put up with the preschooler behavior. I tell myself just lower my standards, but I can't fake who I am.  You mention the terms of service it's written out against sexual harassment and slander. it states no racial acts etc. You show some one breaking those rules over and over and nothing is done. What is the point of having rules if never enforced?

Posted on: Fri, Apr 18 2008 8:17 PM

Posted by: Commander Posts: 4

Hey guys

There have been times i am sure when we have all thought or said something negative about other races, this is natural tribalism. However as humanity progresses with it's social and emotional development i am sure that these issues will fade into history.

I am white and i have listened carefully to people of my race who have made negative comments about different groups and i understand where some of them are coming from. The thing is that i have also looked at what great men such as Martin Luther King and Ghandi both said and stood for and it is now my sincere belief that humanity just needs time to advance and grow in it's emotional, social and moral maturity.

This takes time and as a part of that journey we can all play our part in making that progress a reality.

Regards