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Posted on: Fri, Apr 18 2008 8:18 PM
Posted by: cudachaser Posts: 1,484
In addition....my pet concern is that kids under 18 go there...we gotta keep it clean
Joe
PS...I got into a major pissing contest with one racist...and another that stalks women just always hangs there...ans I'm powerless
Posted on: Fri, Apr 18 2008 9:04 PM
Posted by: rainey826 Posts: 2,633
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH WE ARE LOSING GOOD PEOPLE ! NEEDS TO STOP NOW
RAINEYYYYYYYYYYYY
Posted on: Fri, Apr 18 2008 9:09 PM
Posted by: Commander Posts: 4
Well as i am the new boy here i guess that puts me in the clear
Perhaps someone should start a thread called "Topic Taboo's"
I am happy for this as i do not come online to offend people. (although i have been a little fire starter in the past)
Posted on: Fri, Apr 18 2008 9:13 PM
Posted by: kikibaby Posts: 6
Racist comments are never accptable anywhere,I think ignoring the problem is definetly the wrong thing to. More moderators would be helpful,bans and suspensions would be effective also.
Posted on: Sat, Apr 19 2008 12:43 AM
Posted by: Becky Posts: 1,547
Well, I was looking for a way to stop the e-mails I keep receiving from the amputations section of the Chat Room and Discussions and who should I find posting something but my old friend Beakerless. You should re-read your comments below that you made to me and taken from my own post. You should also read your own blog titled "Anomymity on the Internet." Talk about discrimination.
I am not a racist and never have been. No, I don't think it is right to use racial comments at all and I never have, on this site or in my life. I don't judge people by their color, religion or anything. I have known very nice black people and horrible black people when I lived in Lansing, Michigan. I have also known very nice white people and horrible white people, and the same goes for Asian people, on and on. A person is not good or bad because of their color, religion or sexual orientation. I have very good friends who are gay. I happen to live in a predominantly white area now, so I don't have any black friends close to me now. I have an adopted Korean niece and nephew, who now have children of their own of mixed race. I wish we lived in a world that was tolerant of each other, unfortunately we do not.
I do not feel it is right to call people names at all, names like: liar, selfish, bitter, on and on, Names like I was called all so subtly when I posted on this site. I had a problem, posted it on this site and some of the people, one of which who has posted to this very thread, decided to pick away at me. I had to defend my character and good intentions, and I was still not believed. Then, when I tried to defend myself again, it got even worse. You even chimed in with your opinion. No one likea to be called names, no matter what is said, whether it is a dirty racial comment and a character attack.
I was discriminated against even by you. You told me you were raised by an amputee who built your house. Good for him, and I'm not being sarcastic here. I mean: wonderful, excellent, I'm glad he could do that. I cannot do that. You don't know anything about me, yet you chose to judge me. I don't know what it's like to be of another race, but I can guess and I can empathize. Just being a woman sometimes leads to discrimmination. I don't like it at all and I would then, as a result, not disriminate against someone else. Also, I am not paralyzed and I would never ever assume that I know what that is like, but I can guess. I can also empathize, can't I?
You cannot lump amputees together any more than you can lump together people who are paralyzed. You also cannot lump together people of a race or culture. Every amputee has a different degree of amputation and problems associated with it later on. I was in a bed for a year and I went through a really tough time. I was not looking for sympathy, I was looking for encouragement and support. That is not what I got from some of the people. Others were very kind and thoughtful. I happened to have a problem forgiving my mother-in-law because she was not there for me. Everyone on this site has a different degree of injury or disease. We are all different. But, we can be kind and thoughtful to each other, can't we?
You talk about true survivors. You talked about being as mean as you can be. Well. it doesn't feel good does it, when someone is as mean as they can possibly be to you. I feel, as people who have been discriminated against already, because they are disabled, we should band together and stick up for one another. I guess some people just like to be as disagreeable as they can be. I can't change that, I wish I could. Wherever we go in life there is always someone who is going to be a jerk just because they can be.
I believe nasty comments of any kind do not belong in a chat room or anywhere on the Internet. You were not the worst person to make a comment in my post, but you were not the best either. Live by your own words.
p.s. Take my advice, never ask for someone's opinion, they might just rip you to shreads when they give it to you.
beakerless
By the way I was raised by an amputee who mixed the cement for our house in a wheelbarrow, poured it into the foundations and built a house for our family with no help. He also built a full machine shop and worked full time for over 35 years supporting us.
I have fallen numerous times myself, once down the stairs but my choice is still not to let anger, resentment and bitterness dominate my life.
Posted on: Sat, Apr 19 2008 1:57 AM
Posted by: IamwhatIam Posts: 70
Sorry Becky, If you were trying to make Beakerless look bad with those quotes of hers, you failed. You asked for an opinion, and when SEVERAL of us gave you an opinion you did not like, you turned on the attack. You were the one who called names, and said you were leaving. You came to a disability site, and accused others of "not knowing" how bad you have had it. People here are not members because their lives are perfect. Most of us have gone through serious accidents or illnesses, and we DO KNOW. All you wanted to do is complain about your mother-in-law, and how she had abandoned you. That is between you and your mother-in-law to work out, but you stated that you will not confront her, so what are we supposed to do? There had to be a reason why a good relationship went in the toilet. I suspect you know what happened. Face up to it and get on with your life. You obviously have a problem with personal relationships if you were able to alienate strangers on a message board.
Posted on: Sat, Apr 19 2008 2:19 AM
Iam, you again. You are the problem here on this site, not me. You started the trouble with my post and you were very confrontational and judgemental against me. You basically called me a liar and I felt I had to defend my position. You got nasty with me first. Maybe you should ask yourself why you like to do that. You like to be confrontational and I do not. I had to defend myself and my character. I will take the high road now and not get into it with you again. I will not say anything further to you.
Posted on: Sat, Apr 19 2008 2:23 AM
Posted by: Joel Posts: 631
As I said in the chat, I am not racist.....
I accept all people regarless of sex,age, and stuff
I don't think the comments should accepted and I wont be going into the chat much anymore because a few people in the chat dont like me there!
Anyway.....
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