Last post Sat, May 10 2008 7:33 AM by just2beme. 24 replies.
This is so good.
I just feel a friend or two is around the corner. I had a stroke at an early age. came home in a wheelchair but has since given it to a deserving person. I am blessed, truly. Glad to have found this space
Hello Just to be me:
No one disability is more important than the next. I have 4 hidden disabilities in which two are life threatening. Does this mean that a person in a wheelchairs disability is more serious than mine or yours? Of coarse not, but when a person who has a walking disability is standing next to a person in a chair the public will aways show support to the person in a chair even tho the person standing may live 5 years to the chair person living 50 years. When we start telling ourselves that this disability is more important than this one then we are making ourselves equal to the able bodied public who makes medical calls on us with out a license. The people who make statements like he can walk so he doesn't belong there. They don't see the heart conditions or the cancers or head trauma issues. Hope this helps you a little.
Hello just2beme,
welcome to Disaboom.
Diamonddog, was it really necessary to go into lecture-mode, and that in such a patronizing way?
It seems to me that all just2beme was saying was that the wheelchair isn't necessary anymore.
Daisies
I am so glad you feel better, and also feel more able to make friends, here and in person. That you don't need the wheelchair does not mean that you judge yourself less "disabled," or anything else. The 'attack mode' that some people use on this site should not put you off from the warm welcome you will receive from others. It speaks to their own issues, not yours.
You have a good time wandering around the various topics here, write a blog if you feel like it, and let that "New Woman" start having a better time than what you must have gone through with that stroke. I am glad you felt charitable enough in your heart to give the chair away, not sell it. It speaks to the kind of person you are. Welcome. Bonnie
WECLOME TO A GREAT SITE ! RAINEY826
So, does "being a new woman" mean you used to be a man? HaHa! That was a joke. I never take my challenges in life without a bit of humor. Yes, they are challenges. They are not illnesses or injuries, or even "dis"abilities. So, I say this, to inform you that sometimes, you just got to have the right frame of mind, to get through the challenges in life. I'm an old-skewl dude, who lived during a time when we took care of the elderly and infirm, and didn't cart them off for someone else to deal with the "problem." So, as I grew up, I looked around and saw my family grow old, deteriote, and move on. In the movie, "Bravehart," during a battle, Stephen looked at Wallace and said, "I spoke to God and he told me that I would be OK. He told me, though, that you are F_____!" I think Stephen was talking to me, then, because I am a Scot! So, I decided to continue fighting. Are you able to talk with someone, and tell them, in words what a stroke is? I can't. But I can bet my last dollar, that "NOW I KNOW" what "that" one is. I see it as just another experience in life. Its kinda like spending your money when you feel blue, don't do it! You can't take anything with you, when your time comes, not even a "gold" tooth. So, lift your head up, be proud and be strong. FIGHT BACK! Get an attitude adjustment. An older surfer friend of mine once told me, "The only attitude in life is to have no attitude." I used to laugh at him, back then. Now that I am older, I realize he was right on! So, I've decided to live my life with another one of his beliefs. "Wax your board. Waste your brain, and pray for waves!" Of course, just figureatively speaking, hehe! I hope you're feeling better and I do wish you the best of health. Don't ever be a liar, scammer, cheat or thief, and I will always pray for you, even if I don't know who you are. When I cam back from Viet-Nam, I spent two years in a hospital for skin-grafts. I had a friend there, a double amputee who lost both of his legs. He used to whine and bitch and complain about his wheel-chair. I told him once, when he got through whining, he ought to thank God for making the person who invented that chair, for him to use! It changed his life. When you had your chair, you didn't deserve it. You "needed" it. Now that it is gone, I am glad to hear that you passed it on, recycled it, to some other soul who also "needed" it. When that chair is finally worn out beyond repair. When the wheels can no longer be straightened, when rubber will no long hold onto those wheels, when the brake pads refuse to continue to work, when the nuts and bolts will no longer function, and when the seat and back can never ever be replaced again, I'd like you to get that chair back, and put it on your back porch or patio, as a decoration, hoping that it will never have to be used for its intended reason in life, EVER again. I want you to look at it. Go over and caress it on those places where you used to caress it and to think about all of the other bodies that have "used" that chair, after you decided that you no longer needed it. Then, sit into that chair, with a sigh, and thank God for making the man or woman who was its inventor. Thank your creator, whoever "she" is, hehe, and be grateful for the life you have been given. For those who do not know me, I am not a bible-thumper. I just know who I am and where I came from and why I am here. When I was 18 years old, and on my second tour of duty in Vietnam, I had my "talk" with Jesus. I'm not going to get into it with anybody here. Some of my closest friends know abot it. Because I've told them. To make a long story short, we are all here on Earth for a reason. To "learn" things. So, everyday, I am still here learning things. I just hope that I can share things with people in a way that is not misunderstood. I was on the table for 2.5 hours about 10 days ago. At the 2 hour mark, the surgeon askd me my name, and I told him. Then, the nurse asked what my date of birth was. I told her that I did not remember. She asked me, why? I said, "I was very young, back then!" Fortunately for me, that surgical team knows me very well! I am sure that when they say their prays at night, I am included in them. GET THIS GUY OUT OF MY LIFE! HeHe! Always fight back. There is a reason for everything! Get well, best of luck, and God bless!
Hello just2beme
Welcome to Disaboom-Glad to hear you are doing well. This a great site with a lot of amazing people.
Stay Strong
Vinny
Welcome to Disaboom!
Hi, I live in Mid-coast Maine, I guess that's East Coast! Betty
Welcome from a guy on the east coast of Florida!
Joe
Hi dog772,
Thank you for the welcome message.
Not understanding the emphasis on 'disabled', 'wheel chair', however,......
'Important?' please explain! A disability is a personal thing, like sexual preferences. It is or can be serious depending on the person and their disability.I am not disabled, really...I consider it just a handicap now that I walk on my own, with a foot/leg brace.Saying just how blessed I am. You have 4 hugh? Sorry to hear that. I think more of us are disabled than care to admit, really. I hope yours are manageable and that you are ok with them. I know you've adjusted somewhat but 'life threatening' is really serious. Maybe you can fill me in sometime.Yes, it is sad that we can't know how each of us suffers and what with. I pray that you live long and prosper.... (smile)
Hi bonnie
Thanks for the warm welcome and support,.....lol since I apparently needed it, already! LOL......
No offense taken by the dogs comments. I hope he feels better, u know? ha.
I have not wanderd around yet or posted a blog but I will. You are so kind. I wont take the credit for being charitable because I did once try to sell the chair to get money to eat, pay my storage fees, etc because I was also homeless for a while. No fault of my own. No longer, tho, cause my father (God) really carries me in his arms. When I found a place to live, I had no need for the chair......or space to keep it. I planned to give it away, however, once on my feet. ha ha.Thanks again bonnie
God bless
Thanks a lot, rainey
Thanks a lot Joe
