Last post Wed, Apr 30 2008 9:19 PM by mitskev. 39 replies.
Hi Tammy how are you today?
When you become disabled, you find out very quickly who your real friends are, and they're the only ones really worth the effort to stay in touch with anyhow.There were some surprises for me, though my sister has been a real head case since we were children.However, a few of the friends I thought I could count on showed their true colors, and it wasn't a pretty sight. I distanced myself from them. Others to whom I wasn't that close before have been wonderfully supportive, though.
Hey girl where are you today?how are you?
Doesnt that blow your mind about the friend thing
People are weird critters. A person who was with me every day in the hospital when I was at my worst, and whom I thought I'd always be able to depend on, gradually got very critical and fault-finding after I got home.For example, the first time she saw me walk, instead of being thrilled, she said flatly, "You're not bending your left knee."Also, whenever I was in her presence she would get very huffy when I wouldn't let her do every little thing *for* me, including push me in my wheelchair.I explained over and over that being pushed around like a sack of groceries would *not* help me to get stronger and more independent. The response was, "You ought to let people help when they want to."This person is not a bad person, and she has many good qualities, but her attitude was not helping me, or her, so I've detached.
I agree with you in some aspects - I can even relate to the sister thing. But I wholly blame myself on the "falling out" - I detached from her and the rest of family, all of my own doing. However, who was the first one at my side in the ER room. ? I regret all the missed quality family time - just because I was foolish. I've become so emotional. I even cry at stupid stuff on TV. Your sister will come to her senses - I did. Remember blood is thicker than water and our time here on earth is so short. Forgiveness is divine - you won't regret at least trying. In the end family is all we've got. When you get to the pearly gates - you won't have to justify what you and didn't do to go onto heaven.I'd bet everything you won't be sorrry - I'm not to this day. There are good people in this lifetime - you and your mother, add to that count.
Sounds law suit material to me, maybe you shloud look into it before any "statute of limitations" may or might run out. I thought there were laws against "forced" retirement. Still sound very suspect to me - any one with a legal background ? You still want to work at the place where these jerks are ? Sue the pants off the guys it would serve them right. Ever check into varacella virus or the hospital for any class action litigation ? I'd say try the Internet and see what you come up with ? Worth a shot I'd say.
Learning to walk is a great step toward an independent life - I meant that figuratively and literally. This was first and foremost on my journey from a stroke and my rehabilatation. It still is ! (my right arm has come back to me, my leg mainly my knee still needs constant mental reinforcement and I can't help but look down when I walk - just to see that knee is bending when it's supposed to). One day I hope to be rid of my cane completely ...
mitskev: When you get to the pearly gates - you won't have to justify what you and didn't do to go onto heaven.
When you get to the pearly gates - you won't have to justify what you and didn't do to go onto heaven.
Carla N.
Well I too am retired. Not by choice also - tried to tough it out after my stroke but found it was too hard. Mentally and physically. I planned on retiring on my terms not from a early in life stroke. Now you and I have nothing but time literally - find something you like to do - anything. Enjoy !
Good luck with that Harley and Sam Elliot thing too !
