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i can't speak for anyone but myself, but being in a wheelchair, I get approached constantly by people when I'm in public, and i've had to become very cautious in my interactions.  most ppl want to either find out the gory details of chair life or say something about the inspirational moment you caused them to have at the grocery store.  so maybe this fella in "great shades" was trying to avoid that kind of interaction.  I know I would, and it doesn't mean I have some "wall" up to keep everyone out, just some of them.  heh.

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I totally agree with timm, that attraction comes with self confidence, humor, and personal authority once you develop that (guys) women will come in droves. I no longer approach women, I try to behave in a way that they come to me. By being sort of the "class clown" if they dont come around, no sweat, I do what Im doing regardless.

I try not to worry so much what other people think about me anymore, but thats easier said then done at times.

Im still a work in progress I still fight loosing weight, been a long time since I been skinny. But again, a work in progress. Women seem to like the naughty boy type of guy, oh some will probably deny it, but deep down, they always seem to be drawn to those type of guys dont you ladies

As for your sustutation by not talking directly to that guy but to his friend, it was like treating him like a coat rack or something. We all been there, people talk at you not to you.

Best thing to do is learn from that, and when the opportunity arises for you to meet someone else in that setting you'll know better than talking over someone to someone else while the subject your talking about is sitting right there!  He can speak for his self

peter98362:

Women seem to like the naughty boy type of guy, oh some will probably deny it, but deep down, they always seem to be drawn to those type of guys dont you ladies

I have friends who are definitely drawn to the naughty boy types but I honestly am not!  Now don't get me wrong, I don't want a milk toast guy either.  The strong "alpha male" types definitely get my attention.

Naughty Boy..Naughty Girl, sorry that's a bunch of crap...

People want what they cant have but if your looking for long term, and trust, Bad Girl, Bad Boy last months if at that!

True love last years and hopefull a life time.

Being disabled opens a whole other door, if people are wanting to date us based on a need to "take care",

nature, or just want to date us cause we get close parking at Disneyland!

Know yourself and be comfortable with your disablity and its limits and the world will follow!

 

 

 

 

 

 

devorella:

peter98362:

Women seem to like the naughty boy type of guy, oh some will probably deny it, but deep down, they always seem to be drawn to those type of guys dont you ladies

I have friends who are definitely drawn to the naughty boy types but I honestly am not!  Now don't get me wrong, I don't want a milk toast guy either.  The strong "alpha male" types definitely get my attention.

 

 

Meh.  Honestly, I never have been.  I'm a geek lover through and through. The bad boy seemed like too much emotional work and I never attracted that type anyway.  Heck, I didn't date enough to make wasting time on them worth it.

 

Whitney 

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devorella:

peter98362:

Women seem to like the naughty boy type of guy, oh some will probably deny it, but deep down, they always seem to be drawn to those type of guys dont you ladies

I have friends who are definitely drawn to the naughty boy types but I honestly am not!  Now don't get me wrong, I don't want a milk toast guy either.  The strong "alpha male" types definitely get my attention.

 

 

Meh.  Honestly, I never have been.  I'm a geek lover through and through. The bad boy seemed like too much emotional work and I never attracted that type anyway.  Heck, I didn't date enough to make wasting time on them worth it.

 

Whitney 

See I kinda love a geek too.  "Ohh talk computer hardware and videogames to me baby!".  I'm serious, I actually love that stuff.  But the guy I'm seeing right now is a geek with tools!  So not only is he handy with a laptop, he can also fix things around the house!