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PEOPLE HAVE SAID TO YOU DUE TO YOUR DISABILITY ?

 

Ok..call me stupid but I'm confused by the poll! Are you asking whether someone HAS said something stupid and how stupid? OR did you actually want to know what they said? Just in case that's it-LOL! People always assume that just because I have broken MANY bones, they must not hurt the same....uhhh...If you stub your toe 50 times, it hurts just as bad on the 50th as it did the first!

I agree Kara,

 

This is a confusing poll but let me say, I'm not going to vote Republican.

hmmmmmmmm

 

i'm not sure how to make it anymore clearer .. but

 

what is the stupidest thing anyone has ever said b/c you have a disability ..

 

and kara .. YES you got it right !!

 

when i was pregnant .. and i worked like 15 hour days .. i'd call my husband during my 1 1/2 dinner hour ..

 

when i got off the phone .. a girl on my team said to me .. does it hurt?

 

i said does what hurt?

 

she said sex

 

i said what you mean?

 

she said sex with your husband ..

 

i said what?  you think he sexually hurts me?

 

no sex with him doesn't hurt its great ..

 

i THEN wanted to say to her .. why? does your husband sexually abuse you?  should i call 911?

 

why do people think they have the RIGHT to say WHAT-EVER-THE -FREAK they freakin want?

Well I was born with partial hearing and visual but everybody notice my disfigurement on the right side.  We I was younger kids and adults would as "Why is your face like that?   When I say the I was born this way they would look totally stupid and confuse But when I change it and say "I was in a fire"  They seem to except that   Dujh..

 

Another one was when I said that I was born this way,   People would actually tire to be doctors saying "did your mother smoke or father drink?   Can they get any stupider...

lol, wow. You know, no one has ever given me a conclusive indication that "I was born this way" is a valid explanation for my CP. They seem convinced that something more must have happened. Maybe I should say "oxygen deprivation while being born" more often.

I would have to say that the day I was rolled into an exam room for further x-rays and the technician said, "Just use your good leg to stand on and get on the table for me."  Um, both of my legs were busted up pretty bad and this was all clearly stated in my medical file which the woman happened to be holding at the time.  

 

Personally, I can't stand the word 'stupid' so I rarely use it but I had immediately thought, "Omg, are you serious?!  Isn't part of your job to know what your patients injuries are?"  There was no way I could possibly stand and I felt very angry that she hadn't done her job a little better and double checked my file to see that it was impossible for me to stand at all.

 

Although many people say things that seem insensitive, I believe it stems from their not actually experiencing what I go through themselves.  Most people don't spend time thinking about how much more trouble it is to use the restroom when you  can't walk.  Or how much more trouble it is to attempt to use the stove without burning yourself.  Or even how hard it is to get dressed since you can no longer step into your breeches like you used to. And most of all, I really do not believe that others understand the level of pain I endure on a daily basis.

 

I used to be that way.  If it didn't pertain to me, I rarely took the time to truly focus on the needs of another. (i.e. Not saying anything to a person who obviously was not handicapped but was using a handicapped parking space, not paying attention to obstacles in front of public restrooms, etc.)  Don't get me wrong, I did do my best to be "helpful" by dealing with things that seemed blatantly obvious to me like removing debrise from a roadway so another wouldn't be in an accident, opening doors, getting something from a high location for someone in a wheelchair, etc.  But I had not spent time actually thinking about the everyday tasks that disabled folks must adjust to and how I could make their lives easier.

 

I am human after all and not capable of knowing everything about everything.  Like so many others, if it's not directly affecting my small world, I have a tendency to overlook it because it is not exactly as high a priority as paying the rent, finding a job, buying groceries, etc. I don't think I was doing or saying 'stupid' things.  I do think I was very uneducated when it came to the needs of those with disabilities though.  Even though my words/actions were based on a desire to help another, my lack of knowledge could easily be portrayed as "stupidity" in some cases.

SDn .. while your point IS well taken .. its a little different than someone coming up to you and THINKING they have the RIGHT to ask you about your SEX life .. THAT TRULY IS STUPID .. its not the same as your'e talking .. its not QUITE the same as when people JUST COME UP BEHIND ME .. GRAB MY HANDLES ON THE BACK OF MY CHAIR .. AND JUST START PUSHING .. no "hello" no "do you need help" sometimes they SAY (while grabbing my handle bars) "here let me help you"

 

your help is not warranted .. i didn't ask for your help .. shall i just come up to you and start pushing you around .. yes this kind of thing is uneducated ..

 

but another STUPID thing ...

 

i get SO SICK AND FREAKIN TIRED of people thinking they are being CUTE or funny or WHATEVER and say to me CONSTANTLY .. "watch my toes"

 

usually i just IGNORE it .. for all my life i've heard .. watch my toes ..

 

one day at work .. this lady said that WHILE CROWDING into MY space .. i was at the counter first and she's leaning over me from behind .. and says "watch my toes"

 

i said .. who's toes are they?  she said mine .. i said oh well then don't you think you should be watching them?