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Posted on: Tue, Sep 25 2007 1:02 PM

Posted by: Lola Posts: 142

great video, orangemango, thanks for posting

hugs, lola

Posted on: Thu, Oct 11 2007 3:46 PM

Posted by: sharonr Posts: 397

 That's a great top ten! I've gotten over the handicapped parking issue, for the most part, except when it's raining. I do always hope that one of the idiot's that has taken the parking place without physically needing it will walk by while the skinny little crippled girl is pulling her wheelchair out of the backseat of her car, and feel really really bad! That works even better if it's raining!

Why do people yell at wheelchair people? Try this: yell your reply back at them. I'm a smartass, I'll probably get shot for that one one of these days.

Here's a couple:

People watching you get your chair out of your car, unfolded, seat put in, and THEN offering to help!

Men who look at me and think "wow, what a waste". I mean, I know it's their loss, but still.... 

Posted on: Fri, Oct 12 2007 5:11 PM

Posted by: Orbit Posts: 42

#8 is such a pain.

Are others bothered by people who do not need to use accessible bathroom stalls but use them anyway???

-Jen

Posted on: Mon, Oct 15 2007 1:30 PM

Posted by: sharonr Posts: 397

 I hate that! I'm sorry you're too fat to fit comfortably in the regular stalls! You can lose weight, i'm not going to learn how to walk at this late date! Then there are the handicapped stalls that are only a tiny bit bigger than the regular ones, so i just end up leaving the door open....if people can't see the wheelchair sticking out, and decide to come on over and see if there's anyone using, and get a eyeful of me cath-ing......too bad, so sad.

Posted on: Thu, Oct 25 2007 5:47 AM

Posted by: ctpitact Posts: 21

Great list, CF

#10 used to drive me nuts -- people standing there with a detached, almost clinical/'scientific' eye as I was seizing before them (but I've come to ignore them now and not care).

#9 just because.  Cars do get "keyed", and it's all I can do to keep from doing that when I see a person with crutches or "wheeling" across the lot because some abled person wanted a closer/better spot.

#7 even though my condition has been diagnosed as permanent (as you'll see in my bio, the surgeons that my wife and I had dealt with determined that with the number of areas of brain damage that I have, asking did I want to continue walking and talking, or go through with the procedure?).

#5 fortunately, I have a wonderful wife (only my girlfriend at the time that I became a person with epilepsy/ABI), who never left my side.

#3 yes, I understand that you're my mom, and I'll always be your 'little boy', and yes, you're my parents-in-law, and I know that you'll always care....but really....I've learned to deal with it.  Life goes on.

People who ask my wife when she's at work, in a pitying tone, "So what does he do all day???"

#2 Concerning sex....people asking my wife, "Does 'everything else' on him 'work'"?

#1 people staring at me or making comments when I get out of the car, when we park in a handicapped site when I'm not wearing my helmet.

Posted on: Mon, Oct 29 2007 4:09 PM

Posted by: cudachaser Posts: 1,484

 On #2...I had people park in the stripped areas between disabled parking spots  and  I need  to use the right side of van to get in & out

#8 is really annoying...I just speak up and make direct eye contact with them...That usually takes them back

Joe 

Posted on: Mon, Oct 29 2007 5:01 PM

Posted by: Daisies1 Posts: 0

sharonr:

People watching you get your chair out of your car, unfolded, seat put in, and THEN offering to help!

Yeah, I like that one. And when people do so I  hold up my arms and tell them they have to lift me out of my car now.

Sometimes people are very honest and say they just want to see how it´s done with the chair and the transfer, if I would mind? And when I think they can take it I say `no, and for a buck or two I would even do it twice´.

Posted on: Mon, Oct 29 2007 5:15 PM

Posted by: Daisies1 Posts: 0

#8 sure is a pain. But in my case it´s so that people talk to my daughter instead of me.

Or to my mom, when we were together at the vet with my cat. He naturally assumed it was my mother´s cat.( She probably had just taken me along because I can´t be left at home alone.) So I told the vet it is MY cat, and I need to know these things he was telling, but he only glanced at me and went on adressing my mom. My mom made little gestures to direct him to me, but no good. After a minute I started trying to get his attention in earnest, and resorted to waving my hand and saying hellooo, trying to get into his line of vision. But he just ignored me.

Though I must say it was a huge exception. Usually people see their fault, and adress me properly.