Last post Sun, May 11 2008 9:35 AM by Fred. 21 replies.
Hi! my name is Netty..im 29 yrs old single mother...im an A.K.A..since 2001...it was a truamtic accident....i still have problems dealing with the lose...espically when i cant do the things i loved to do once...i have an 11 yr old daughter that my disability is now affecting...she wants to do so much with me but i am to scared to even try...i kinda have my mind set as to i just cant do that anymore...i decided i need to change my thoughts and come to terms already to my disabilty...after so many years of downing myself i want to live again...if anybody knows of things i can try to make myself feel more comfortable on attemping to do more things...please give me your advice
Hello Netty,
welcome to Disaboom.
Daisies
Hi and welcome. There are lots of able bodied amputees doing all kinds of things. You are only limited by your own thought process. Start living while you still can.
Hi Netty,
I'm new, too. We can be new together. I don't know about you, but it took me about forty years and forty nights to figure out what I was doing and how to work my way around the site. Nah! I exaggerate just a little. Really, it only took me about nine or ten hours. Finally, I called for backup. Thank goodness for friends who are a lot more "Tech Knowledgable" than I am.
As for your question about what helps, I find that music really lifts my spirits. Also, emailing friends, writing letters to friends or family, talking on the phone or making crafts. Do you have anything you really love to do that you are still able to do? Perhaps, you like working with wood? If so, maybe a Dremel Moto Tool would be something you might like? Do you like to sew? Maybe Dolls or doll accessories? Or could it be that you like to draw or paint?
If you can think of something that you would really love to try, by all means, try it. If you are putting forth some effort to find what you might like to do, you can't fail. The only way you can fail is if you don't try. Then, if you realize that you don't like something, move on to something else. Your little girl needs to be as much a part of your happiest part as possible. Trust me, Netty, if you aren't happy, she will never be able to grasp what happiness can be. She loves you and needs you ~ ~ ~ ALL of you.
Personally, I like dolls; cloth dolls, ragdolls, paperdolls ~ ~ ~ you name it; if its a doll, I love it. Now, don't misunderstand. I don't have talents in any of those areas, but there's always collecting. And once you start collecting, you just have to find out everything you can about a doll. For instance, did you know that dolls were once used as medical aids? True story. Years ago, when a doctor would ask a woman where she hurt, she would point to the spot on the doll to indicate where her pain was. After all, it was not proper for a lady to show her private parts to a man other than her husband.
See what I mean? Collecting ~ ~ ~ anything ~ ~ ~ can lead to some very interesting information. I really hope this has helped some, Netty. I did not know what AKA meant when I first saw your note, so I had to look it up. Obviously, I don't know what you are feeling and I can't begin to imagine. Remember, though, that no two people on Earth are faced with the same challenges, but if we all pull together, maybe we can all come out on top. I do hope that I've said something that will help, even if all it does is bring a little smile. And if virtual hugs count for anything, I am sending the biggest hug possible. God bless, pzldone
Hi Netty. As a caregiver, I have worked with a few people that had aba and bka both. Part of what you are feeling is simply put,a mourning for the loss of your limb and part of what you are feeling is fear that you can't do what you used to do. Do you go to P.T. and have you been fitted with a prosthetic? One of the things I did to encourage the people I worked with was allow them the opportunity to express their feelings and also find different ways of doing things they liked doing, riding on a bike trail versus walking through the woods, etc. If you allow yourself to explore the world from a different perspective and with your daughter, you will find your fears diminish as you find you are still able to enjoy life and the sharing of those discoveries with your daughter will be priceless. Hope this helps, Donna
Hey Netty,
Welcome to Disaboom! I'm a BKA of three years. It's hard to find your balance, literally and physically, being an amputee. Congrats on finding your way out. All I can suggest is taking your time and test the waters so to speak, on what you can and cannot do. Go after what interests you and just try it. Hang in there.
Becky
Hello pzldone,
Do You have Your own 'welcome'-thread, so that everybody knows You are aboard?
Welcome Netty and pzldone!
Salutations Netty and plzldone,
Welcome to Disaboom-It's always great to welcome new members. This is a wonderful site, full of great people. Enjoy!!!
Stay Strong
Vinny
I hope you are doing well, today. I've been thinking about you all day. I was thinking about something that might help with spending time with your daughter. Reading is one of the things that I have always enjoyed with both my children and my grandchildren. The nice thing about reading is that it allows for nice things like hugs and cuddles. What kinds of books does your daughter like to read? Maybe, you could go online and find some of the sites that the different books have. For instance, I especially love to read the Junie B. Jones books. Now, I don't know if that is something the two of you would enjoy, but my husband and I have had lots of laughs while reading those together. Admittedly, it is not his style of choice, but once inawhile, we enjoy reading one together because we know that the laughs are spinkled liberally throughout every one of her books.
Anyway, if you go online, you can type in, "Junie B. Jones" and find the site that is dedicated to the character in that book. On the other hand, if you type in, "Barbara Park" (the author), it will bring up a whole new website and both websites are fun to scroll through. There are games and activities on lots of different websites. Just choose the book or author you would both enjoy reading. I like the kinds of books that I do, probably because I am a writer and that's who I like to write for.
I surely hope this helps. You have been on my mind and I'm sending you hugs and good wishes. Pzldone
Netty
I've been a Bi-Lateral AKA for over 20 years. I can only tell you that you have to do the things you are comfortable with at first. Don't try to rush into stuff because if you fail, it will only make you feel worse. I hunt,fish, play pool in a pool league. Early in my physically challenged life I even played raquetball. You are really only limited to what your mind tells you you are. I have 2 kids and while they were growing up I encouraged them to do whatever they felt they could do so that is my advice to you......check out your local YMCA if you have one in your area. This is a great place to meet people and get into activities with you daughter.
Feel free to email me if you'd like.........cause like i said.......been there,done that
Take Care,
Hi Becky,
Thanks for the welcome note. It took me awhile to figure out how to answer. I hope I haven't made anyone feel shunned because of my lack of computor s a v v y. Computers are still an enigma to me. I do appreciate your message. No, I don't have a private thread. Actually, I don't really know what that means. Anything you can tell me would surely be appreciated. It only took a few hours to figure out as much as I did with my profile and such, but I really love the site.
Thanks, again. I'm looking forward to hearing from you.
pzldone
hello everyone i am new as well i am an 18 year old student in Australia
Hello Dolphin,
pzldone; Your own welcome-thread would mean a page like this, only with Yor name on top.
If You want to start one You click on the orange bar where it says "chatrooms and discussions", scroll down past the "Recent Topics" list, (that´s where the headline of Your thread will be listed then), to the gray box that says "start Your own discussion" (or something to the effect). Click there, and it will take You to a list of different forums. The "New to Disaboom-Welcome"-forum is pretty much at the top. Click on it, and it will open. On trop of the list topics You´ll find a blue button "write a new post". Click, write, and post.
That´s how You can start any discussion. Just select the proper forum from the list.
Hope this helps.
Take care,
P.S., Dolphin, how about You? Why not have Your own welcome thread too?
Welcome to Disaboom, dolphin!
