Given that they’ve been politicized and stigmatized, most surrogate partners are not open about their activities. The few sex surrogates who practice keep their work private, even from family and friends. Given legal and ethical concerns, it can be even harder to find a sex surrogate outside of New York, California, Florida, and Pennsylvania. If you find yourself met with such challenges, working with a sacred sexuality Tantra practitioner may help in avoiding legal or ethical concerns.

Making matters more difficult is finding a sex therapist who has been trained to work with a sex surrogate partner. Most sex surrogates will only work with clients who have been referred by a therapist. This is ideal not only because some sex workers pretend to be surrogates, but because you’re guaranteed a professional who has been trained to work in a therapeutic situation, guided by professional code of ethics. In identifying a sex surrogate, check out the International Professional Surrogate Association’s (IPSA) website (www.surrogatetherapy.org). This resource provides trained, qualified sex surrogates, plus offers an extensive, 60+ hour training program.

What are the rewards of sex surrogate partners?
In addition to overcoming a sexual disorder or gaining sexual self confidence, sexual surrogacy can equip clients with the skills and attitude needed for heightened well-being and better health. Whether having sex for the first time or enjoying close, caring interactions, a person can come away feeling more whole, enriched, and positive about their abilities as a sexual partner.